To build supportive relationships, apply best healing practices, and restore souls shattered by the invisible wounds of war.
Our vision
To provide the most-trusted, effective, and efficient resource for combat veterans, families, and experts to interact and overcome the psychological wounds of war.
Why Not Alone?
- This is where military families trust and support each other.
- We are strong. We want to fix the problem, and we need a reliable place to learn to fix it.
- We want the freedom to learn anonymously and confidentially.
- We want to restore and protect our love for life.
How can being not alone change us for the better?
At Not Alone, we join with people who share our experiences, our struggles and our hopes. We are no longer fighting our war after the war alone. As we start to win the war, we see our attitudes and expectations changing. We are becoming not alone. We have the reinforcements we need to win the battle.
I am alone. |
I am not alone. |
I am angry. My anger drives people away.
I am braced for the worst.
Others are likely my enemy.
I stay stuck.
I do dangerous stuff.
I've seen hell. I can't hope.
I don't have much to offer.
My life is out of control.
I am emotionally dead.
I depend on help.
I am preoccupied with the past.
I only trust a few people.
I attract evil |
I am peaceful. My peace attracts others.
I expect the best.
Others are likely friends.
I move forward.
I am safe.
I see goodness. I have faith.
I am valued, and others depend on me.
I have power over my future.
I am vibrantly alive.
I am a giver.
I live for the future.
Many friends support me.
I attract goodness |
What programs and services are available for us here?
Support Groups
We can anonymously join online support groups that follow the Not Alone 9 Steps. We can also attend helpful seminars and other events online. We learn to cope so success in life is achievable.
Individual Counseling
We can request and receive free one-on-one counseling from an expert, licensed therapist in the area where we live.
Forums
We can find help and share our own experiences in the forums. There, we can ask others for help, read about how others like us are feeling and educate ourselves.
Stories
We can listen to stories here or download them into podcasts. In the stories, we discover how others like us find new strengths in their weaknesses.
Networking
We meet others whose situations are a lot like ours and communicate with them privately through the site.
Assessments
We can take assessments such as the stress continuum assessment that help us understand our situation and define a corrective course of action.
How do we know we belong here?
- We are among others who understand and accept us.
- We make a difference in the lives of each other.
- Together, we create a community, and the community changes us.
- We develop lasting friendships as we invest time, energy and effort to connect with each other.
How can you afford to do this for us?
Not Alone is funded by donors who appreciate the sacrifices we have made and want to give back to us.
How can I help by giving?
The Not Alone Fund has been created to address the emotional and psychological aftermath of war–for combat veterans and the people that support them at home.
The Not Alone Fund has the ambitious goal of offering free services to all combat veterans and families who need help. We must have the unqualified support of the American people to succeed.
Not Alone helps brings combat veterans and their families back into the community, back to a just and safe world. We, the American people, cannot stand by and expect our government to provide all of the services that our combat veterans need, because, no matter how hard the government tries, and how perfectly they execute their programs, they cannot be the whole solution.
The government cannot be the whole solution because:
- Combat stress, by its very nature, destroys capacity for trust. Many combat veterans who have made enormous sacrifices have understandably lost their trust in the very institutions that put them in harm's way. Combat veterans need a place of their own that they can trust unequivocally. The government is powerless to provide that space.
- The government's programs, despite the best of intentions, follow the medical model. The medical model focuses on sickness, drugs and disability. Our focus is on strength and success, not dependency and weakness.
- Combat causes wounds of the soul. Non-governmental community-based initiatives such as Not Alone are far more suited than government entities to helping restore fractured souls.
Not Alone has an urgent need to obtain the support of the American people. Please consider making a gift to honor the sacrifices our combat veterans and their families make for us.
The Fund is administered by the Community Foundation of Middle Tennessee.
Thank you for your gift.
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